queeranarchism:

holdbeast:

theproblematicblogger:

I aint gonna articulate this right but I’ve noticed there’s this weird sub culture on tumblr where it’s frowned upon to say anything positive about your life. Like occasionally I see someone post something like “I love my job so much” and a few responses are like “wish I could find a job :/” or “must be nice to not have depression” and it’s really strange. A lot of people are pulling themselves out of dark places or finally figuring out how to be happy (no easy feat) and they don’t need you projecting your own demons on their moments of happiness they wanted to share.

“Crab mentality or crabs in a bucket (also barrel, basket or pot) is a way of thinking best described by the phrase ‘If I can’t have it, neither can you.’ The metaphor refers to a pattern of behaviour noted in crabs when they are trapped in a bucket. While any one crab could easily escape, its efforts will be undermined by others, ensuring the group’s collective demise.”

– Crab Mentality, Wikipedia

Other examples:

Most incel groups

Eating disorder groups that glorify thinness

Trans groups constantly criticizing each other’s appearance and ‘passability’.

“Other trans people can’t get insurance or crowd funding for their surgery because I have had to save every penny myself”

Basically EVERY “I paid for it so others can’t get it for free, I suffered for this so others can’t have it easy” mentality.

Social justice groups where gaining any kind of ‘privilege’ through transition, finding a job or mental health recovery is immediately met with suspicion, criticism and a decline in group connections.

If something getting better in your life isn’t met with enthusiasm and support.. get out of that social space.