realisticsuggestions:

When you raise children to believe that they are not meant to be heard, for many of them that trickles into every other part of their life. If the child was lucky enough to have an innate, unwavering sense of self-worth from birth they might be okay. But considering most children get their confidence and self-worth from how they’re raised, you unknowingly doom your child. You teach them that their voice doesn’t matter and they’re inherently wrong at all times. You open them up to abusers because abusers are so good at picking people who struggle to realize when they’re being devalued. You open them to feeling immense shame for so much that is not their fault. This is so important to understand especially when you are raising children of color. These kids are going to be subject to so much that they don’t deserve, and if you treat them poorly at home, they’re going to expect poor treatment outside of the house. Telling children they have no voice tells them they are not worth having a voice and when you believe you’re worthless, all ideas of you achieving success start to disappear. Stop breaking the spirit of children before they even have a chance to make decisions for theirselves.