manintolerant:

I’m not against adoption but it’s quite idiotic of a lot of you to not know that you should be adequately equipped to raise your adopted child/ren that are different than you in some capacity. Just because you’re a white gay couple doesn’t mean you are equipped to know how to raise children of color. A lot of people are not equipped to raise disabled children, either. It has been repeatedly documented that white couples, gay or otherwise, abuse, neglect, and kill their adopted children of color. Additionally I think these white couples often do not account for the difficulties their adopted children of color may experience if kept away from their respective people/s/culture/s.

While this is not necessarily an equivalent comparative, I know adopted children that found out later in life that they were Jewish and were severely negatively impacted because they had been kept away from their culture, stripped of a connection to their heritage, and were not raised Jewishly. There’s also a history of Christians and Catholics stealing Jewish babies with the intention to raise them as Christians and intentionally strip them of their connection to their culture and heritage.

Forced adoption continues today as we have heard in the cases of Guatemalan children taken away from their mothers. Adoption can be a force of violence. Adoption can be damaging to the children adopted even if parents are equipped to take care of the children they adopt. Adopting a child is a very serious decision and I honestly don’t think especially white gay people consider that the needs of their adopted children, especially if they are children of color, outweigh whatever desire they have to simply have a child.