geekdawson:

spindletrees:

The thing about dating is …….my life is so full of people who i love very very very much, who love me in return, people with whom I share deep and rich and complex connections…. and in light of that it feels like kind of a drag to go hang out with some stranger for a bit to see if a romance will come of it.
I want romance in my life but half the time I’m dating someone I just
grow increasingly meh because I’m comparing that little green shoot to
my full and flourishing friendships. 

Even the loveliest first date is a little awkward and ungainly. It’s so taxing to go through all the rigmarole of nurturing a new connection. You’re meant to dedicate so much time to it. You’re meant to be growing in intimacy but it feels like an interview.
I make new friends everywhere.

I make friends by accident.  Why is romance so difference and delicate and tricky??

#tl;dr I want the romo but E F F O R T ……this speaks to me on such a visceral level…